Short answer, because no-one else will. Well, not until you drop the know-it-all act, muster up some courage and offer your clueless, beautiful self to what lies behind the door named WHAT IF? You don’t have to move mountains in 5 minutes. Change is a turtle race. It takes a series of small efforts. Try by little try. It could be standing up when others sit, opening your mouth when others are afraid to or parting your hair on the other side. Showing up for yourself is not about being the loudest in the room; it’s just about being in the damn room. Become the centre of the mother-loving universe long enough to realise you probably got a lot to learn and even more to let go of. And start from there. The time for a better you was yesterday. But you were too busy.
Taking care of yourself is more than a daily necessity, it’s how you show yourself that you matter.
Have at it.
Getting out of bed is a good start. Make it or don’t. You’re the one who’ll be sleeping in it later. What’s the worse that can happen by fluffing-up a couple of pillows, laying out the spread and chucking them socks in the wash? At least then you’ve done one thing today. It ain’t ground-breaking and we ain’t your mum but it’s something to build on.
Working on straightening out me, myself and I is not about going hell-to-leather to be something you’re not, that’s just gonna leave you beat, and down in the collar. The most important thing in this self-improvement lark is being a witness to your growth. Take your time, young man. Compare yourself with yourself. Who were you yesterday? And where you at today? Somewhere better or worse? Only you can tell.
Brass tacks. And a hammer.
Let’s get down to it. When all’s said and done; how you deal with those things that are right under your nose will be the difference between ‘shoulda, coulda, woulda’ and having a real story to tell. Real because you lived it. The here and now is the right and left nostril sucking up the moment. So what to do? Like practically. Here are five things that might help you along the way.
- Pick up a load – Not a dumbbell. A responsibility. A burden you can bear with some effort, it should feel a little uncomfortable at first. It’s new territory. It’s the weight of change. You’re building a coping muscle.
- Ask for help – This is a hard one. There’s a lot of expectations of a man. His-story took care of that. But don’t forget your human first and a man second. There will always be someone stronger, smarter, weirder or cooler in the room. We don’t have to see them as competition, but more as a conversation waiting to happen. You could learn things from each other. Allow it to happen.
- Get your shit in order – First things first, aye! If the foundations under you are shoddy then it won’t be long until you’re face down on the canvas. Lay down a strong ballast for yourself so you can weather any storm and people will look to you for stability. Everyone is at a different stage in the building process. Don’t judge someone else’s house or you might get distracted and forget to tighten a bolt on one of your own rafters.
- Don’t serve time, let time serve you – You’ve probably got more of it than you think. But the clock is always ticking. What you gonna do with it?
- Go with your gut – Pay attention to yourself. There’s wisdom in your bowels. It knows you best. And if you listen long enough you can work out what you’re trying to say to yourself.
Close to the bone.
Unfortunately, there are no magic bullets, no easy answers to What’s it all about?’ The only sure way to get a whiff of meaning in life is by asking yourself hard questions. Toughies. You know, the kind of questions only you can ask yourself. You know what they are. And more than likely you already know the answers. Scare yourself into living by facing that thing that’s been following you around and take it down so you can move past it. Take what it teaches you into your next incarnation.
Get what’s coming to you.
‘You reap what you sow’. It’s an oldie but still a good’n. And to help you get the most out of Boldking, we’ll be sprinkling a few seeds in your direction, designed to help you take care of more than just your beard because there is so much more to you than how you shave. And believe it or not, we’re still a small company, small enough to actually care about the people we talk to.